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Hi Slovie (and other moms), I have a 6 month old and I'd like advice on how to get him to get to sleep easier and stay asleep longer.  I am already doing a bedtime routine, but sometimes my son, even though he's tired, just wants to look around at everything in the room.  This is true even if it's dark.  Also, can you advise on getting him to sleep for naps as well as bedtime.  Also, as a woman who is working full-time, I have a babysitter putting him to naps during the day, but he cries a lot beforehand.  I really don't want to let him cry it out (and my husband is totally opposed to that), but that seems to be the consensus among my friends.  Finally, what's your opinion on the pacifier?  Now, he's pretty dependent on it to calm down.  Any help is appreciated.  Thanks!

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many moms will give you many ideas-King Solomon taught us to 'teach your child according to his way'- meaning that you need to know your child's nature. Some children are more mellow and some have a less calm nature and it takes them longer to relax and get to sleep. So I would first tell you to know your son's nature well and notice if he is being over stimulated before sleep time , like being played with in a very active way when daddy or mommy comes home to make up for the day of being at work full time. If so, try to find more calm play activities for nightime; like reading picture books, calm floor time etc. Also, look around his room and see if perhaps you have too many distractions that are preventing him from going to sleep. We often think we need the black and white mobiles, flash cards, and the latest toys and musical gadgets but we end up over doing the stimulation and surroundings for our babies.pacifiers are ok to calm down , especially for a 6 month old, but I would just be careful not to have him use them constantly, from morning to night, careful not to always have a paci in his mouth even when he is calm. As far as a routine, this is crucial. Give him a warm bath, sing and cuddle with him, sing the Shema, give him his bottle, etc. There is a huge difference between then allowing your baby to cry it out or allowing him to cry for a few seconds and then reassuring him with a soothing voice, patting his back gently, and then either going to a part of the room that he cannot see you or standing out the door and then upping the intervals by a little longer each time. This way you are not just leaving him to cry and at the same time you are teaching him how to go to sleep on his own. This may take even a week , but afterwards, he will learn how to go to sleep, you will see. Any moms whom wish to share their experiences?? We would love to hear from you!!
I can suggest an amazing book that really helped me with my son, its called "the Baby Whisperer" by Tracy Hogg. She has a system on how to get the baby to sleep through the night, how to get them to nap properly etc. It really works if you are persistent. Good luck!
Sleep is probably one of the biggest challenges with a new baby, so hang in there! When my son was 4 months old he stopped sleeping well (was sleeping around 6-8 stretches starting about 2 months) and naps were a total disaster. My son depended on nursing to fall asleep and would wake up screaming just an hour or two later to be nursed back to sleep again. I was so tired and could barely function.

So, I went to the library and took out every single book on babies and sleep.Mostly every book was based on what the authors thought or felt was a good way to help babies sleep. Nothing was based on fact. But then Hashem sent me the answer to my sleeping prayers! The book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Dr. Marc Weissbluth. The book talks about sleep cycles, the biology of sleep and how to develop good sleep habits starting from birth. The book even includes graphs and studies of the amounts of sleep children need or get at specific ages. The tips he has in there are amazing! By 6 months my son started sleeping 12 hours straight at night and taking 2 naps, about 2 hours each! The bottom line of the book is that we need to recognize our childrens sleep signs and but them to bed before they become over tired, and then allowing children to teach themselves self soothing and how to fall asleep and return to sleep on there own.

I have told so many friends about this book and everyone agrees that it is the best sleep book out there and has made such a positive difference in their baby's sleep. I wish I would have known about this book before my son was born! G-d willing the next time I'm pregnant I plan on reviewing the book and starting from day one with all the methods in the book.

Good luck! Hope you get some sleep!


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