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There is a growing movement of people who believe that Vashti is the heroine of the Purim story. These people, mostly feminists, think that because Vashti stood up to the king and refused to come to his party in her birthday suit, that she is the hero of the story. Unfortunately for them, Vashti’s case doesn’t really hold up in court. The real story is that Vashti was so disgustingly conceited that she would have loved nothing more than to parade around in front of the whole country in the nude; however at that moment, the sources say Vashti got awful skin diseases- so she was too embarrassed to come out. Sorry feminists, Vashti can’t be your poster child, but someone else can…
Esther was taken to the palace against her will, and selected as queen against her will. But she stuck it out. She knew that she was in the unique position to possibly save her people- who Haman had decreed should all be wiped out. She used cunning, her feminine strength and finesse to get the king to play into the palm of her hand. At just the right moment revealed her identity to the king and made a plea for him to save her nation. She knew that sometimes patience and a plan is the only way to get what you want. She knew sometimes you have to suppress your own desires temporarily to get what you really want, or to get what’s best for your loved ones. She knew that she had such tremendous power to manipulate the king, and she used it for the best possible reason. What better message to send a feminist or a MetroImma? You as a woman have the command and composure to turn a situation around. You have the wisdom to make plans, and seize the perfect moment to execute them. You have the sway to influence your husband, your family, your community for better or worse….
So this Purim, remind yourself how much power you have and think about how you are going to use it.