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Monitoring Your Child Online
I read an article in The New York Times, “Now Parents Can Hire a Hall
Monitor for the Web”, about a few new Internet companies including
SocialShield, Safety-Web, and MyChild that monitor children’s internet
activities. For a fee, these companies will provide parents with a
report of what their children are doing online, like social networking
sites. This either will enable passive parenting or enable parents to
think they are not capable of handling their own family technology.
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Permalink Reply by Ariella Brown on
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Permalink Reply by rebecca klempner on -
Our computer is in a location that you cannot count on being undisturbed while on it pretty much ever. Plus, the little web access our kids have is on white-listed sites with parent controls to boot. We're even trying to eliminate that! The phone web access thing is really hard to avoid...I'm trying to convince my husband that we should get "kosher cell phones". It's a really hard issue. On the link to the husband policing article, someone brought up the issue of yichud. While one commentor thought this was extreme wording, I think it's not AT ALL. I saw Rav Wallerstein speak here in L.A. a couple of weeks ago. He said that almost a third of divorce filings this year have Facebook "friends" as causal factor in the final split.
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Permalink Reply by Hilary Buff on -
A great question, that many people ask my often. Many spouses are monitoring activities, and it can lead to a great deal of mistrust in marriage....Can imagine how it would feel if the tables were turned?
As with our children, I do believe we need to have the upmost respect when monitoring computers and cell phones. I have concerns that we model behaviors that show we respect others privacy and even though the computer or phone may not be thought of as a private space, it does contain private and personal information-whether we like it or not.
We need to be able to have trust that our children and our spouses have been taught to use computers safely and know the expectations of your family to use computers and cell phones.
I would recommend that like with our children you may want to have a honest and heartfelt conversation with your spouse about the expectations, concerns and plans that you both will be willing to keep in regards to the computer and cell phone.
If unable to have a conversation like this, there may be other issues going on and you might want to consider seeking outside support like with a therapist or a Rabbi.
Ariella Brown said:
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